We live in a culture that constantly reminds young moms that their lives are over, that their children are mistakes, and that they have futureless predetermined destinies. Why are we surprised when those feelings are internalized?” - Marylouise Kuti-Schubert


We Support and Encourage Your Growth

by Marylouise Kuti-Schubert 

How is a successful parent defined?  Is it by their age, their income level, their race, their relationship status?  Organizations like Candies Foundation encourages people to believe that teens who have children have ended their own personal lives. Statements like “Enjoy your youth by being a kid, not raising one,” and “You’re supposed to be changing the world…not changing diapers” only perpetuates the idea that teen parents are not capable of leading meaningful lives. I would like to personally invite the Candies Foundation to sit down with the women of #NoTeenShame, because these are just 7 of the many teen mothers who ARE changing the world and changing diapers too! 

Celebrity endorsements may influence some, but does it trump reality? I challenge everyone reading this to look past the fame and fortune, to develop their own educated opinion with a wider viewpoint than that of shame and stigma.  If the Candies Foundation would like to continue sending these mean messages, they will – they have the money and power to do so.  They have been contacted and approached numerous times to sit with #NoTeenShame and develop positive, educational and resourceful information with regards to teen pregnancy prevention, and numerous times we have been ignored. To send the kind of destructive messaging that shaming young men and women and their children is not productive, it is hurtful and it is mean.  Since when did being mean become the acceptable form of strategic messaging and information sharing, especially in 2014?  The Candies Foundation has adopted this approach, and I encourage you to please challenge it!  

Now that May has ended, remember that teen pregnancy prevention without shame and stigma are critical to the continuation of conversations, policy and education for effective comprehensive sexual education and teen pregnancy prevention.  After reading countless articles, blog posts, tweets and facebook posts regarding teen pregnancy and teen pregnancy prevention, I feel compelled to YELL out loud “Teen parents lead productive, successful happy lives with their children.  Teen parents are NOT poor examples to other youth and should NOT feel ashamed for choosing to parent their children!”

Becoming a mother at 16 years old allowed me to learn to love another person more than myself, my motivation to become a better woman was driven by my desire to become a better mother. I did not nor do I seek perfection with my children, I seek to be a good enough mother.  One whose children do not measure their self-worth by the amount of money I make, my relationship status or my age when I had them.  Being good enough means that though I may make mistakes, my children will never doubt how much I love them.  They may not have the newest shoes at their tennis banquet, but they have me and they will always have me there. My sons are growing up in an environment that encourages young people to judge others for their past circumstances. Do we want to raise our children to judge people like this?

Parents struggle in every community in different ways. Many of us face injustices that make it harder for us to be the best versions of ourselves – yet we continue to challenge those odds. Parenting is a layer added to our already existing identities, it does not define us but it does impact who we are. To young mothers and fathers, I encourage you to please, work to be the best version of yourself that you can be.  If you struggle with addiction, if you struggle with school, if you feel alone please know that you are not!  We at #NoTeenShame support and encourage your growth as young men, women, mothers and fathers.  


By Melinda Lugo of Lovebirth.     

I am a butterfly.

Sixteen years of age and midway through my junior year in high school, the store-bought pregnancy test read positive. Recently kicked out of my dad’s home, I had just moved in with my mom. There were many emotions, excitement the predominant one. I wasn’t afraid, probably because of a dysfunctional childhood that had numbed me from believing fear even existed to begin with. Maybe, I just wanted to love the baby in the way I had wished I had been loved as a child. The thought of not continuing the pregnancy did not even cross my mind despite my mother’s determination in persuading me to have the abortion, too young, too inexperienced, too early in my life. However, I knew I was going to give birth; I believed in birth. I believed my body was created to do it perfectly and I trusted the process. Despite everything else around me being unstable, giving birth was the one thing I knew I could do right.

Read the full post on Christina’s blog, NotAnotherTeenMommy.com

Natasha’s daughter shares an important #NoTeenShame message on May 13. 

Teen Moms from the Department of Education’s Lyfe Program have more than a few things to say about the way society perceives them and their children. These young women are in school, raising children, and making it WERK everyday! This MamasDaythey wanted to tell you all something with a little #NoTeenShame added. 

by @GloriaMalone

#NoTeenShame is a movement and a campaign serving as the public voice on the issue of teen pregnancy and the unnecessary stigmatization of teen parents. Created by a group of seven young mothers across the country—some of whom have never met in person–#NoTeenShame believes no young person should be shamed for his or her reproductive choices. Our goal this May is to continue highlighting successful relationships with organizations within our communities who are working in safe, inclusive ways.